In a new recurring agony aunt column Michelle Moist answers some of the common questions she gets from working in the adult entertainment industry. This week she tackles the classic issue – men’s insecurities about their dick size! 

Speaking to men on the phone on babe shows and on cam over the years, I’m forever being asked to rate guys’ dick sizes and it’s apparent to me that most men think their dicks are small when they’re actually pretty big.

The amount of times I’ve been on cam with someone who’s asked me to rate their dick thinking it’s small or just looking for a “professional opinion” is enormous, if I had a pound for every time I’ve been asked this I would be super rich! Think it’s about time I put a bunch of you straight on this…

So what is average? How long is the vaginal cavity?

Two important questions one of which I’m sure most men do not take into consideration.

A Journal of Urology study indicated that  “an average penis size of 8.8 cm (3.5 inches) when flaccid. An average penis size of 12.9 cm (5.1 inches) when erect”

Most vaginal cavities are between 3 and 6 inches on average and the vaginal cavity (often it’s suggested you figure out as roughly the size of your hand. Of course that changes over time and is impacted by things such as childbirth, age, etc.


I think the length of the vaginal canal is important here; even a 3 inch dick in some cases will fill a woman up so to speak! So think about this carefully when you consider how your dick will please a woman.  It’s also got a lot to do with, of course, how you use it. The right positions will also help give the woman the deep penetration she may desire.

So if the average dick size is between 3-5 inches, why do all of you with 6 or 7 inch dicks think that they are small!?

Watching too much porn, porn where the girl is perhaps small, or the camera angles are shot in particular ways, have left you lot thinking you are inadequate!

Too much porn scrambling your sense of size?

For example a lot of porn dicks are around 6-9 inches but they will look a lot bigger on a small lady like me who is 5ft 2 and weigh 50kg. And in porn they love small women for this reason, the bigger they can make the dick look the better in their eyes. So again, bare this in mind when you look down and think about how you measure up.

The amount of times I’ve had this conversation with men on the phone or cam

Me: “So how big’s your cock baby”

Caller: “Oh it’s not big enough for you, it’s only 7 inches”


Caller: “It’s only 6 inches”

Guys! It not only 6 inches, 6 inches is a good dick! Not big enough for me! 7 inches is my perfect size of dick! And trust me I’ve sampled them all from 4 inches to 13.

Big dicks can be quite difficult

It’s worth mentioning too, that you actually can’t have the kind of sex you might want to with a dick that is “too big” – when it’s too big it’s not actually that fun. Sure, a lot of men just think bigger is better – well guys, not the case here trust me. And believe me after speaking to the guys with bigger dicks doing porn with them, they are definitely not getting more pussy than the average man… a lot less it seems. I actually felt quite sorry for the guy with the 13 inch dick I worked with, as he said his sex life was really difficult with a tool like that.  And forget about exploring anal with anyone with that size of a member. Girls simply aren’t up for it in the real world!

Having had these conversations with men on cam and phone, telling them simply the truth has (I hope) given them a lot more confidence and faith in themselves sexually.

And most women are not getting with you because of the size of your dick. It’s your face, your personality, your confidence etc. So try not to dwell on it so much basically!

And to be honest above anything else, as cheesy as it might sound, nothing is better than sex with someone that you have a real connection with.  Having had years of empty sex on set, I’m a real believer in sex with meaning and connection behind it. That’s the best sex I’ve had, and FYI most of the guys I’ve had the best sex with on or off  set, have been on average around 6-7 inches.  So now you know!