Nowadays the word ‘fetish’ is thrown around to describe anything from a love of sushi to a particular penchant for reality shows – however this retracts from its actual meaning; fetishes are essentially sexual obsessions referring to an object, body part or practice that becomes the focus of a person’s desire whilst getting it on.
Sexual fetishes are perfectly natural and healthy, as long as they’re kept to the bedroom (it’s when they start encroaching on your everyday life that you’re teetering on dangerous ground) so if you have a list of dirty little secrets then we have good news – your deepest darkest fantasies might not be that weird after all…
Countless surveys have been done on the topic, and although there are no statistics for the most common fetishes in the UK, the same ones keep cropping up time and time again. Here’s what they are – and our guide to making your bedroom dreams a reality:
Podophilia
So you think your feet are the last place your partner wants to touch you? Think again. Your tootsies are a major erogenous zone, so next time your partner offers a foot rub, take them up on it. Anything that will draw attention to your feet is a winner in a podophile’s book, so get a pedicure or wear your favourite pair of heels and nothing else – men are extremely visual creatures so making your feet look pretty is sure to result in a seriously hot session.
Agoraphilia
For some people, getting it on in the great outdoors is incredibly sexy. The mix of raging hormones and endorphins with the ‘will we or won’t we get caught’ adrenaline creates an enslaving cocktail of lust. Since you probably don’t fancy ending your get-together with a visit to the police station, try less ‘public’ public places, such as toilet cubicles or even deserted forests in summer. Still a little too risqué for you? Simply opening the windows whilst hooking up can summon the same feelings of exhilaration.
Alphmegamia
We’ve all heard of the ‘cougar’ – but for some of us, older, more experienced men are hot, hot, hot! We know what you’re thinking – daddy issues! But the actual reason behind this fetish is thought to be to do with the fact that seasoned men are associated with knowing exactly what they’re doing. For those women who like to be dominated, older men are often viewed as being more governing and able to take control of the situation.
Altocalciphilia
We’ve already touched on this in foot fetishes, however for some guys the spike of a good high heel is an instant orgasm inducer. Your partner is sure to enjoy seeing you strut around in nothing but your favourite pair of stilettos, or, depending on personal preference, may wish to be prodded or even stamped on by your most strappy footgear. Remember to proceed with caution though – post coital trips to A&E are never fun.
Hirsutophilia
Erring slightly on the weirder side of things, this fetish involves being seriously aroused by armpit hair. Bizarre as it sounds, there is actual scientific backing to this particular sexual obsession; pheromones are rife in your lover’s sweat, which collects in – yes, you guessed it – armpit hair.
Pubephilia
The clue is in the name for this one… Don’t ever shave for your partner if they’re in this league, because for pubephile’s pubic hair is where it’s at.
Lingerie
Because your undergarments are covered up in real life, having them on show (even though it’s just the two of you) can be incredibly erotic. Give your partner a sneak peek by sending a sexy snap of your lacy bra strap to his phone or try slipping a pair of red panties into his briefcase to discover at work. This is guaranteed to result in a steamy relations on his return…
BDSM
Since Christian Grey exploded onto the scene, we’re willing to bet there’s not a single person who hasn’t toyed with the idea of BDSM. You don’t have to go from zero to 100 straight away, though. Light spanking, handcuffs or tying your partner’s hands with a silk scarf will give both of you an idea of how you feel about this less than vanilla sex option. Exploring the ideas of ‘dom’ and ‘sub’ with your partner will allow the two of you to establish roles you enjoy and advance at your own pace.
