Ah, ‘Erotic Massage’; often associated with dodgy reflexology clinics in Soho or lads holidays to Thailand, this is one form of sexual foreplay that is totally underrated.
Erotic massage is not only relaxing, enjoyable and seriously sensual, it’s also a great way to connect with your partner on a more intimate level and is usually a pre-cursor to incredible, mind blowing, sheet-grabbing sex.
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Follow our step by step guide to erotic massage for a session in the sack you won’t ever forget…
Set the Scene
Nothing says sexy like candles… so dim the lights and burn some essential oils/ aromatherapy candles (be sure to choose a scent you both like; if she gags at the smell of coconut oil then it’s not going to make for a very sexy session).
Make sure the room is well heated – you’re both going to be naked and shivering isn’t sexy…
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Get Undressed
Following on from the last point – a stimulating sexual massage will involve your massage buddy getting good and naked. Make the process steamier by slowly undressing your partner and then getting her to lie down on your surface of choice (a massage table is optimal due to its height and slight firmness, but a bed works just as well).
Remember, no touching or caressing yet – the removal of clothes should build sexual tension and excitement; this way when the touching starts, each and every stroke will feel explosive.
Head & Neck
A head massage is one of the most sensual things a person can experience; the vast amount of nerve endings in the scalp bring on feelings of general wellbeing and elation when stimulated.
The head is a good place to start as it will get your partner relaxed and in the mood for the raunchier massage to begin.
Stroke your partner from her nose all the way up to her hairline, paying special attention to her temples. When you feel ready to get a little more erotic, explore her ears with your lips, tongue or even hot breath; this will be enough to send shivers of anticipation and jolts of pleasure through her entire body.
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Back and Buttocks
Once you’re satisfied that your partner is relaxed and in the mood for more, turn your attention to her back.
This is where the massage oil will come in handy; choose lavender or coconut scents to create a sexy, romantic atmosphere. Use ‘Californian Massage’ techniques to rub your hands in long, smooth strokes from the nape of her neck down to her buttocks – moving further and further down each time.
A back massage will relieve any muscle tension and stress and caressing her bum will be effortlessly erotic.
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Legs
The next point of order is your partner’s pins. Take your hands further and further down her buttocks until you reach the start of her thighs and run your hands up and down her legs in long, hard strokes.
You can also use your thumbs and fingers to knead at any knots in your partner’s calves and thighs; this is a great technique for releasing tension and sending a rush of endorphins to her brain. If she likes a lot of pressure, using your elbows is a great way to get deep into her muscles.
If you want to get even steamier, slightly part your partners legs and massage her inner thighs – long hard strokes combined with soft touches and even light scratching work wonderfully in this sensitive area (remember – however tempting it may be to them – divert your attention – stick to only her inner thighs – the whole point of an erotic massage is to build anticipation before the main event).
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Time to Turn Over
Flip your partner over and begin massaging the front of her shoulders before making your way to her chest.
Some breasts are more sensitive than others, and it’s up to your partner’s personal preference how hard you go; start off with a light pressure and ask her to tell you if she’d like you to increase/decrease.
Slowly massage her breasts in circular motions using your thumbs, fingers and palms of your hands; the motion should be clockwise for the right breast and anti-clockwise for the left.
Nipple play is a highly erotic way to continue the massage; tenderly stroke, touch, lick and suck her nipples – when they’re wet blowing on them will cause a cool, tingling sensation that is likely to send her over the edge.
If you feel like trying something a little out there, use a feather or soft brush to caress her chest; this area is a secondary erogenous zone which leads to the arousal of primary erogenous zones – i.e. massaging her chest is going to turn her on, big style…
Happy Ending
Now it’s time for the big finish and our work here is done; (we hope) you won’t need guidance for this last bit…
Enjoy and remember to take your turn too, erotic massage should always be reciprocated!
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